Love has taught me that in order to love, there always needs to be compromise as well as give-and-take on a constant basis. For me, it’s about “How can I love others?” versus my old paradigm which was, “Why can’t others love me more?” I have found that as I share my love with others, I get love back. However, I don’t get it back all the time because it’s never all the time for anybody. That’s not realistic. Love has also taught me how vulnerable I can be. The more I love and care about others, the more vulnerable I feel about losing them.
There was a time in my life where I lived a very minimalist existence. I had no girlfriend, no pets, and no real attachments of any kind. I used to think that was true freedom. Paradoxically, I have never been so tied down as I am now in my life and yet I have never felt so fulfilled and happy. I know today that if I want love in my life, there will always be the risk of having my heart broken. Yet, I’ve come to the realization that you can’t have one without the other. That’s what makes love so special. I count my blessings every day.
– Greg, short-haired hippie and love guru