Two women hugging in an alley way, photo taken above them

advice i’d give my younger self

1. Save. Invest. Even a tiny bit. It’s hard and awful at the time watching friends spend/travel, but it will make a big difference later. I was told this…but like all things in my life, I had to learn the hard way.

2. Enjoy your babies. Play with them. Make cookies and art and memories. Sing silly songs. Find the energy for one more story. All of a sudden you will blink and they will be grown.

3. You can’t fix people. No amount of love, guidance, pushing or begging can “transform” someone to meet your needs or expectations. It’s not fair to either of you. Ignoring the problems doesn’t make them better either.

4. Love is not enough. It’s a necessary component of a happy relationship but not the only one. Friendship, compatibility, common goals and values are incredibly important. You will spend a lot of time with this person!

5. It’s ok to fail. Don’t be afraid of trying. Sometimes you’ll embarrass yourself but sometimes you’ll do great things. Don’t live a safe life….regrets suck.

6. Don’t be so envious of other people’s lives. What you see is only a small peek into their reality and they often have just as many problems as you (just maybe not the same ones).

7. Look after your health. You don’t want your body holding you back from living the life you want.

8. Love BIG. Jump in with both feet. Forgive people if you can (including yourself). Treasure every moment because there are no guarantees how long you have. Leave nothing unsaid.

9. You don’t have to be perfect. The size of your bum does not define you! Do your best, have fun, be kind and be present. You can clean later.

10. Listen to your mom. She knows everything.

– Tara (pictured right), Momma, organized, fluffy, silly, sparkly, generous, baker, strong, queen



Am I allowed to say, “What she said”?

I would just add:

Listen to and spend time with your grandparents – you’ll miss them more than you know. Take it all in. They know more than anyone on the planet.

Don’t be afraid of success. You’ll be given opportunities that will scare you but you’ll regret not doing them. It will keep you up at night. And your 40-year-old self will really need her sleep.

And stay in school. Do NOT quit.

– Lisa, curious, loyal, protective, nerd, emotional, helpful, smart, loves big