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the art of listening

Every good conversation starts with good listening.

“Are you listening to me?” I ask this question a lot of times when talking with people. I think I notice whether or not someone is listening to me because I think I am a pretty good listener.

Listening is such an underrated quality, but it is one of the qualities I value most in others. I find myself drawn to good listeners because I believe it is a rare quality. It shows me that they really care and value me and my opinion. Being attentive and focused when someone is talking to you shows them you want to fully understand their opinion and value it.

When people really listen to me, it helps me be more creative. I can brainstorm and share my ideas. When someone is a good listener, they aren’t just waiting for you to finish, but rather letting you share your mind. The focus is on the speaker, which allows you to empathize, relate, help, and understand the person who’s talking.

Listening is the biggest sign of respect in my eyes and I think it is an important part of building relationships, trust and communication.

The next time you’re having a conversation with someone, I hope you will remember to listen to understand rather than to reply.

Thanks for listening!

– Emily, computer geek, gymnast, artistic, fun-loving, kind, compassionate, animal lover >> learn more